Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Fleshjack Notes 2 / ?

I've now replaced my regular (daily / near-daily) masturbation habit with using my Fleshjack in order to check it out thoroughly.

The main thing I've noticed is you should be fully erect when using a Fleshjack. Having a soft or semi-hard dick prevents you from experiencing the full pressure of the Fleshjack sleeve. While it's still possible to get some use of it at that point, you may be better off using your hand at that point; your hand permits you to regulate the pressure necessary to get yourself off while the Fleshjack's (original sensation's) pressure is uniform throughout the sleeve.

The experience between using it while fully erect and soft is dramatically different. When I've been erect, the experience leaves me short of breath, panting, and with a hastened pulse that lasts for many minutes. When I've been soft, the experience leaves me with the sense of an average / adequate masturbation session.

One thing that's nice about the Fleshjack is when you shoot inside of it. As long as you take it off parallel to the floor, your cum will stay inside of it. This eliminates the need to dry off yourself (if you prefer drying off your cum instead of keeping it on yourself). Instead, you just rinse out the sleeve and the case and let it dry.

You should probably not use your Fleshjack as for long-term cum-storage if you're into that. (Samuel Colt, http://twitter.com/SamuelColtXXX, warns against keeping it there because the cum [apparently] starts to ferment).

Monday, April 26, 2010

Formspring: Ever had sex outside in the rain? In the snow?

Nope.

I have fantasized about it though, at least the rain part. Getting hot and ready out in the backyard during a warm Miami rain shower would be lovely. The closest I've gotten to this is making out at an abandoned zoo and cuddling in a nature preserve.

I haven't give the snow version of it the slightest thought before. Are we talking with or without clothing?

I have been out in the snow in swimming trunks before, after spending time in a sauna, which was oddly fun. I imagine having post-sauna, naked snow sex can be fun, as well as otherwise fully-clothed snow sex (where the only parts of the body really touching would be the sexual ones).

Formspring: If you were interested in going out with a guy, who'd be more likely to make the first move--you, or the other man?

Online or offline, he's most likely to make the first real move.

I don't know if this stems from my submissiveness, my self-confidence issues, or some kind of passive-aggressiveness toward going out (or some degree of all of the above).

The closest I do to making the first move is that I post thorough profiles of who I am and what I seek and that I sometimes send A4A "smiles" or their equivalent.

All of my "dating" history thus far consists of him making the first move.

Formspring: When you're making face-to-face conversation with a guy for the first time, what are you most likely to want to know right off the bat?

His interests, mundane and carnal (if appropriate).

I want to be able to ensure an as worthwhile conversation as possible, and his interests could go a long way in, first, establishing whether he and I share any interests and, second, providing me with something to work off of in the conversation. They'll also let me know if I really want a longer conversation with him, or if I should either drop the conversation or steer him toward someone else with whom he has more in common.

This requires some forethought on my part though, so conversations I'm in will sometimes rely on the old reliables (the weather and current events).

Formspring: how far do you go on the first date?

If he and I get along, I'll go as far as we both feel like. One of my best dates started with the two of us meeting at his place, sucking, fucking, cuddling, and then relaxing with cakes and a DVD.

I'm a little different (I think); I am not interested in a romantic relationship, but rather friendships with benefits (or simple hook-ups). Some "first dates" have ended up being strictly conversation or dining due to lack of further interest.

I know there are suggested rules for when to do what, particularly in order to "keep" a man. While I understand why some people don't go all out (they want to get to know the guy, etc), I see sex as being part of the getting-to-know-each-other process if both parties want it. This may not work with some guys, as some hold to the idea that sex is supposed to be some later destination after wooing and cooing. In that case, they're probably just going to want to be (non-sexual) friends with me, if anything at all, as we are then seeking two very different things.

Formspring: What do you think is your most attractive feature?

Physically, either my face or my skin.

My face still looks youthful when I've shaved, and my skin is largely smooth and unblemished. My eyebrows are of the hate 'em or love 'em variety. My eyes are pretty nice too.

Personality-wise, it's either my congeniality or my submissiveness. It depends on the person evaluating me.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Formspring: If you could change one thing about your high school experience, what would it be?

I would have come out as gay earlier so that I could experience being honestly gay during my teens. By staying in the closet, I prevented myself from experiencing teen romance and teen first-time sex. Being closeted also brought about frustration in much of my life, frustration that without which I would have been better off.

However, this frustration gave me information I have had and will still have use for in understanding other gay boys / men and their difficulties in embracing their sexuality.

Fleshjack Notes: Part 1 / ?

I received my Fleshjack, an Ice Jack: Ass - original sensation, a couple of weeks ago. I'm going to need some goes and time with it before I can really give a verdict on it, partly due to my infrequent sex toy usage where I'm at (living with relatives) and partly due to my current conditioning (more on this when it comes to the sensation). I received it the evening before going on Easter vacation with my relatives, and gave it a go that same night.

First off, the Fleshjack / Fleshlight sleeve material is exceedingly soft, pliable, and low on friction; it's unlike any material I can recall touching. So, at least for me, it took a little time to get conceptually used to this *thing* I was to stick my dick in.

Second, you use a hard plastic case to hold the material in place so that the "ass" in question doesn't fall to one side. If you have small hands like I do, you may want to use both hands on it as it's fairly volumous. Getting the sleeve into the case was tricky, though it might get easier with practice.

Third, you should rinse the sleeve before your first usage and each time after using it (unless you have an interest in keeping whatever cum and lube you might have put into it). Use lukewarm water; hot water will deteriorate the sleeve material, increasing its friction and potential stickiness (a mistake I started making when I first washed it).

Fourth, lube up your erect/semi-erect dick and the sleeve itself. The instructions say that oil-based lube will damage the material (yes, it's fragile), so you should use water-based lubes with your Fleshjack. Once lubed, go to town with it.

Now, if, like me, you're used to jerking off with the infamous Grip of Doom / Deathgrip, you will probably find the original sensation* Fleshjack way softer than your masturbation experience. In my case, I was uncertain if I could even cum with such a comfortable "grip" on my dick. If you think the sleeve material feels odd in your hands, just wait until you're inside it, jacking off with it.

In the end, I enjoyed the odd sensation, came with it, and had an easy time with the clean-up. The only problem I had with cleaning it was that the sleeve material is a dust magnet, causing dust and stray hairs to stick to it even when dry. If I took the time to practice with it regularly, I think I'd prefer having it as my standard jerking-off tool and using my Grip of Doom when I just need a quickie.

I should note that, at the time, I was also penetrating myself with a six-inch replicock, which made the experience more clumsy than it had to be and may be part of why I'm not ecstatic about my first experience with my Fleshjack. Because of this, I don't consider myself as having really experienced the Fleshjack to its potential and therefore consider this as a part one in a longer reflection on it.

(* I wish I had ordered a tighter sleeve, and recommend considering it if you also use the Grip of Doom when jacking off and are planning your first Fleshjack/Fleshlight purchase.)

Formspring: how far do you go on the first date?

If he and I get along, I'll go as far as we both feel like. One of my best dates started with the two of us meeting at his place, sucking, fucking, cuddling, and then relaxing with cakes and a DVD.

I'm a little different (I think); I am not interested in a romantic relationship, but rather friendships with benefits (or simple hook-ups). Some "first dates" have ended up being strictly conversation or dining due to lack of further interest.

I know there are suggested rules for when to do what, particularly in order to "keep" a man. While I understand why some people don't go all out (they want to get to know the guy, etc), I see sex as being part of the getting-to-know-each-other process if both parties want it. This may not work with some guys, as some hold to the idea that sex is supposed to be some later destination after wooing and cooing. In that case, they're probably just going to want to be (non-sexual) friends with me, if anything at all, as we are then seeking two very different things.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Formspring: Raw or wrapped?

Wrapped for me.

While I have unintentionally had raw / bareback sex in the spur (and heat) of the moment, I aim for condom usage. I intend on creating children later in life via a surrogate mother and my sperm, and HIV would be an obstacle (maybe an insurmountable one) against that goal. However, as I do want to enjoy sex and not live a life of self-imposed chastity (I did that too long while I was closeted), using a condom provides a nice middle ground.

Thus far, I've been barebacked one for, at most, a couple of minutes. The circumstances ameliorated any outrage I might have otherwise had though.

Do I have desires for barebacking? Certainly. My sexuality side is naughty, dirty, and submissive (thus far). Yet, my sexuality generally does not have the deciding vote in my decision-making. It is a part of me that must bend to my overall will.

I also have not swallowed, nor a significant desire to do. While I have no expectation that others should swallow when performing oral on me, I will not deny them that option should they want it.